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Parenting

Our Parenting Style

Earlier I wrote about our parenting style. However, I came across these “Effective Parenting 101s” from Little Hearts and just had to share it with you. Enjoy!

Effective Parenting 101

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“The driving force behind many challenging childhood behaviors is our children’s normal human need to control themselves… themselves! Since the goal of gentle parenting is to help our children learn to control themselves instead of trying to control our children, why fight them for the very thing we want them to have? Take the struggle out of power struggles by returning the power to the child.”
L.R. Knost

 

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Teaching our children to control themselves is far more effective than trying to control our children.
– Model, don’t manipulate.
– Lead, don’t intimidate
– Support, don’t shame.
– Encourage, don’t threaten.
– Guide, don’t punish.
– Listen, don’t lecture
L.R. Knost

 

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“Instant obedience and mindless compliance are poor goals, indeed, when raising children. A thoughtfully questioning, passionately curious, and humorously resourceful child who wants to know why, who delights in inventing ‘compromises,’ and who endlessly pushes the boundaries tends to become a thoughtful, passionate, resourceful adult who all change the world rather than being changed by the world.”
L.R. Knost

 

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“Discipline is helping a child solve a problem.
Punishment is making a child suffer retribution for having a problem.
To raise problem solvers focus on solutions, not retributions.”
L.R. Knost

 

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“It is the nature of a child to behave childlisly. That means childish behavior is normal for children. parents reacting with childish outbursts, hitting, demanding their own way, and name calling to their children’s normal behavior reveals areas the parent need to grow so that they can respond with the true nature of an adult… with mature, wise, and compassionate guidance.”
L.R. Knost

 

Non violent communication

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YELLING silences your message. Speak quietly so your children can hear your words instead of just your voice.
L.R. Knost

 

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Freaking out on your child for freaking out is as hypocritical as it is ineffective. Slow down. Breathe. Then act like the adult you want them to become.
L.R. Knost

 

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“No” is not a complete thought. It is an imperative. A command. it doesn’t teach. It tells. If you want your childen to learn to think like an adult, take the time to explain your adult thinking.
L.R. Knost

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One comment on “Parenting

  1. Angela
    November 20, 2014

    Such a good reminder. I use to never yell until I had boys!

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